My girlfriend can’t enjoy sex with me because my penis is too long


DEAR DEIDRE: MY penis is too long for my new girlfriend to bear.

I know most men wouldn’t think a large penis was a problem but it has become a real issue for us.

My long penis has become an issue in my relationship as sex is really painful for my girlfriend

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Sex is really painful for her.

I have a high sex drive but now I worry I’m hurting her. She doesn’t seem keen either.

My exes didn’t have this issue, so perhaps my girlfriend is particularly small. I feel really frustrated.

Sometimes she goes along with it just to make me happy but I can see her wincing. When that happens, I lose my erection.

I’m 27 and she’s 26.

We’ve been together for three months.

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What can I do?

I really care for her but I’m worried we’ll split up over this.


DEIDRE SAYS: A woman’s vagina is elastic, so can stretch to accommodate any size of penis.

But it is possible you are hitting her cervix during sex, or that she is not turned on enough.

Experiment with different positions and take more time over foreplay to make sure so she is fully relaxed.

Take sex slowly and use a lubricant. My support pack Penis Size should help.

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